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The Lasting Impact of Emotionally Immature Parents on Adult Identity and Relationships

June 7, 2025 alana barlia

This article dives into the weeds on how emotionally immature parenting will affect your sense of self and your adult relationships. Read on to learn more about how this wound may create barriers in intimacy and connection with yourself and others in adulthood.

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Tags emotionally immature parents, emotional abuse, emotional trauma, emotional regulation, adult child of alcoholic, addiction, spousal addiction, marriage, narcissistic relationship, narcissistic mother, narcissistic parenting

Maternal Mental Health & Leaving That Abusive Relationship

March 31, 2025 alana barlia

New research indicates that the long held belief that two married parents is more important than anything to childhood development is being challenged. Instead, new research is indicating that maternal mental health is the number one indicator of developmental, cognitive, and social markers. This blog post will explore this shift in paradigm and what it means for those in abusive relationships.

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Tags maternal mental health, postpartum mental health, abusive relationship, toxic relationship, boundaries, narcissistic relationship, trauma, parenting, mothering

How Parental Alcoholism Shapes Us as Adults

January 8, 2025 alana barlia

This blog post discusses the chronic stress of growing up with an alcoholic parent, and explores the thought patterns and behavioral changes experienced by Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs)

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Tags ACOA, attachment theory, adult child of alcoholic, alcoholic parenting, alcoholic parents, al, narcissistic parenting, codependency, people pleasing, therapy, new york therapist

“Wedges”: The Barriers Keeping You in a Toxic Relationship

September 15, 2024 alana barlia

“wedges” , those subtle yet powerful barriers that keep the door from fully closing on the relationship. This blog post dives into what wedges are, and how they may be creating barriers to you leaving that toxic relationship.

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Tags toxic relationships, leaving a toxic relationship, barriers, boundaries, narcissistic, narcissistic relationships

Why is it SO Difficult to Leave a Narcissistic Relationship?

September 15, 2024 alana barlia

Ever wonder why it feels so hard to break out of the relationship that you're in, despite wanting so desperately to leave? This blog post discusses the familiarity principle, a very real psychological principle that makes leaving a narcissistic relationship feel nearly impossible.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic partner, narcissistic relationships, breaking free, toxic relationships

Nature, Nurture, and Choice: Understanding Your Attraction to Narcissists

August 3, 2024 alana barlia

This blog post dives into nature, nurture, and empowering choices that can help you understand and break free from narcissistic relationships.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic supply, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic relationships, boundaries with a narcissist, codependent, codependent relationships, healing codependency

People-Pleasing: The Legacy of Emotionally Unavailable Parents

February 28, 2024 alana barlia

This blog post dives into the impact of emotionally unavailable parenting on people-pleasing behavior in adulthood. Read on to learn more!

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Tags parenting, attachment theory, early attachment, inner child wound, people pleasing, highly sensitive people, emotional regulation, codependent relationships, codependency

Do Toxic Relationships Cause Trauma?

January 16, 2024 alana barlia

This blog aims to delve into the profound and effects of toxic relationships, with a focus on the development of trauma and its consequences to your life.

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Tags trauma, emotional abuse, emotional trauma, relationships, couples counseling, healthy relationships, toxic relationships

The Crucial Role of Boundaries: Why Establishing and Maintaining Them is Vital for Well-being

January 7, 2024 alana barlia

This blog post delves into the very real necessity of setting boundaries in our interpersonal relationships - and uses a real life example to show the deep impact on our relationships if we do not set boundaries.

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Tags boundaries, boundaries in relationships, toxic relationships, healthy relationships, unhealthy relationships, people pleasing, codependency

What Are Early Signs of a Toxic Relationship? And How to Spot Them

January 5, 2024 alana barlia

This blog post dives in to early warning signs of Toxic Relationships. Spotting the signs early and creating the necessary boundaries in your relationships can support your mental-wellbeing and save you from long term mental anguish.

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Tags red flags, toxic relationships, early warning signs, unhealthy relationships, manipulation and control, codependent relationships

The Unraveling of a Narcissist: What Happens When the Narcissistic Supply is Lost

January 5, 2024 alana barlia

This blog post will dive into the term Narcissistic Supply to give you a better sense of what that is, and what happens to a narcissist when they no longer have their supply.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic supply, what is narcissistic supply, narcissistic relationships, codependent relationships

Navigating the Narcissistic Storm: The Grey Rock Method

December 23, 2023 alana barlia

In the complex web of human relationships, encountering difficult personalities is inevitable. One challenging personality type that many people find themselves dealing with is the narcissist. The Grey Rock method is a strategy designed to minimize the emotional response and engagement with a narcissistic individual. Read more on this method here.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic partner, narcissistic personality disorder, boundaries with a narcissist, boundaries, grey rock method, grey rock, extinction behavior, autonomic nervous system, codependent relationships, codependency, starve a narcissist

Exploring Love Addiction in Toxic Relationships

November 26, 2023 alana barlia
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Your brain is in an addictive cycle of reward & punishment that is so difficult to release. And that is because of something called Intermitten Reinforcement. Read on to learn more about how our brain chemistry plays a role in our crucial relationship choices.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, codependent relationships, codependency, mental health, healing relationships, toxic relationships, dopamine, serotonin, couples therapy, therapist, new york therapu

Unraveling the Science Behind Our Attraction to Toxic Relationships

November 26, 2023 alana barlia
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Human relationships are complex webs of emotions, chemistry, and psychology. This blog post speaks to you if you find yourself drawn to toxic relationships - a cycle that is very hard to break.

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Tags toxic relationships, abusive relationships, science of relationships, relationships, codependent relationships, codependency, narcissistic abuse, couples therapy, therapy, new york therapist, new york therapy

The Suffering Parent: An Insidious Type of Narcissism

November 20, 2023 alana barlia
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If you have read my blog, you know the tell-tale signs of Narcissistic Personality. But do you know the more insidious side of Narcissism? Not the type of Narcissist who screams, yells, and belittles - but the type whos suffering is so loud there is no room for you? That is the type of Narcissism we touch on in this blog post.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic personality disorder, victimized parent, suffering parent, gaslighting, victim mentality, boundaries, boundaries with a narcissist, codependent, people pleasing, victim, victim stance

Protect Yourself: Learning to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist

November 20, 2023 alana barlia
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The best way to deal with the narcissist in your life? Set. Boundaries. This blog post will guide you through some necessary boundaries to set with the narcissist in your life.

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Tags boundaries, boundaries with a narcissist, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic relationships, narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, mental health, therapy, couples ther, codependency

Reclaiming Your Truth: A Journey to Self-Validation After Gaslighting

November 20, 2023 alana barlia
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Reclaiming your truth and validating yourself after being gaslit in your relationships is difficult. Read here to learn more about how to reclaim yourself through the healing journey.

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Tags gaslighting, gaslit, narcissistic abuse, recovery, recovering, healing codependency, mental health, codependent relationships, codependency, people pleasing, perfectionism, adult child of alcoholic, acoas, boundaries

5 Ways to Start Healing Your Codependency

October 15, 2023 alana barlia
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Healing your codependency doesn’t have to be scary, and you don’t have to do it alone. Read on to learn 5 steps to begin healing your codependency today.

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Tags codependent relationships, codependent, healing codependency, codependency, tips for codependency, emotional trauma, body trauma, familial trauma, narcissistic partner

What Is Codependency? And What Does This Buzzword Really Mean?

October 15, 2023 alana barlia
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Ever wonder what the deal is with this buzzword Codependency? Read here to dive into the foundations of what Codependency is & why it develops.

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Tags codependent relationships, codependent, codependency, healing codependency, tips for codependency, alanon, adult child of alcoholic, therapy, couples therapy, couples counseling

The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse

October 12, 2023 alana barlia
an infographic exploring the cycle of narcissistic abuse in 4 steps.

Ever wonder why it’s so hard to break free from narcissistic relationships? In this post I dive into the cyclical nature of narcissistic abuse & why it makes it so hard to leave.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic partner, narcissistic relationships, narcissistic parenting
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