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Why is it SO Difficult to Leave a Narcissistic Relationship?

September 15, 2024 alana barlia

Ever wonder why it feels so hard to break out of the relationship that you're in, despite wanting so desperately to leave? This blog post discusses the familiarity principle, a very real psychological principle that makes leaving a narcissistic relationship feel nearly impossible.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic partner, narcissistic relationships, breaking free, toxic relationships

Nature, Nurture, and Choice: Understanding Your Attraction to Narcissists

August 3, 2024 alana barlia

This blog post dives into nature, nurture, and empowering choices that can help you understand and break free from narcissistic relationships.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic supply, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic relationships, boundaries with a narcissist, codependent, codependent relationships, healing codependency

The Unraveling of a Narcissist: What Happens When the Narcissistic Supply is Lost

January 5, 2024 alana barlia

This blog post will dive into the term Narcissistic Supply to give you a better sense of what that is, and what happens to a narcissist when they no longer have their supply.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic supply, what is narcissistic supply, narcissistic relationships, codependent relationships

Navigating the Narcissistic Storm: The Grey Rock Method

December 23, 2023 alana barlia

In the complex web of human relationships, encountering difficult personalities is inevitable. One challenging personality type that many people find themselves dealing with is the narcissist. The Grey Rock method is a strategy designed to minimize the emotional response and engagement with a narcissistic individual. Read more on this method here.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic partner, narcissistic personality disorder, boundaries with a narcissist, boundaries, grey rock method, grey rock, extinction behavior, autonomic nervous system, codependent relationships, codependency, starve a narcissist

Exploring Love Addiction in Toxic Relationships

November 26, 2023 alana barlia
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Your brain is in an addictive cycle of reward & punishment that is so difficult to release. And that is because of something called Intermitten Reinforcement. Read on to learn more about how our brain chemistry plays a role in our crucial relationship choices.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, codependent relationships, codependency, mental health, healing relationships, toxic relationships, dopamine, serotonin, couples therapy, therapist, new york therapu

Unraveling the Science Behind Our Attraction to Toxic Relationships

November 26, 2023 alana barlia
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Human relationships are complex webs of emotions, chemistry, and psychology. This blog post speaks to you if you find yourself drawn to toxic relationships - a cycle that is very hard to break.

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Tags toxic relationships, abusive relationships, science of relationships, relationships, codependent relationships, codependency, narcissistic abuse, couples therapy, therapy, new york therapist, new york therapy

The Suffering Parent: An Insidious Type of Narcissism

November 20, 2023 alana barlia
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If you have read my blog, you know the tell-tale signs of Narcissistic Personality. But do you know the more insidious side of Narcissism? Not the type of Narcissist who screams, yells, and belittles - but the type whos suffering is so loud there is no room for you? That is the type of Narcissism we touch on in this blog post.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic personality disorder, victimized parent, suffering parent, gaslighting, victim mentality, boundaries, boundaries with a narcissist, codependent, people pleasing, victim, victim stance

Protect Yourself: Learning to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist

November 20, 2023 alana barlia
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The best way to deal with the narcissist in your life? Set. Boundaries. This blog post will guide you through some necessary boundaries to set with the narcissist in your life.

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Tags boundaries, boundaries with a narcissist, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic relationships, narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, mental health, therapy, couples ther, codependency

Reclaiming Your Truth: A Journey to Self-Validation After Gaslighting

November 20, 2023 alana barlia
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Reclaiming your truth and validating yourself after being gaslit in your relationships is difficult. Read here to learn more about how to reclaim yourself through the healing journey.

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Tags gaslighting, gaslit, narcissistic abuse, recovery, recovering, healing codependency, mental health, codependent relationships, codependency, people pleasing, perfectionism, adult child of alcoholic, acoas, boundaries

The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse

October 12, 2023 alana barlia
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Ever wonder why it’s so hard to break free from narcissistic relationships? In this post I dive into the cyclical nature of narcissistic abuse & why it makes it so hard to leave.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic partner, narcissistic relationships, narcissistic parenting

How to Spot a Narcissist - 5 Signs to Look For

September 5, 2023 alana barlia
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Ever wonder if somebody in your life has narcissistic personality traits? Here are 5 signs to help you spot a narcissist in your life.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic relationships, narcissism, narcissistic partner, codependent relationships, codependent, codependency, people pleasing, perfectionism, alanon

The Narcissistic Mother Wound_And How To Heal

February 25, 2022 alana barlia
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This post reflects on the specific treatment of daughters by narcissistic mothers. There are actionable steps that you can take if you have experienced narcissistic parenting, and this post aids in exploring some of those options.

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Tags narcissistic parenting, parenting, narcissistic abuse, narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, emotional abuse, emotional dysregulation, emotional trauma, sympathetic nervoyus system, inner child wound, autonomic nervous system, vagus nerve, breathwork, trauma, body trauma, inner child, mother-daughter, mother daughter relationship

My Partner is Showing Signs of a Personality Disorder: But Which One?

September 20, 2021 alana barlia
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Feeling unsafe in your relationship with your partner? Or wondering if they are exhibiting tendencies of a personality disorder? Here is a summarized look at the similarities and differences between Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder as it relates to intimate partner relationships.

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Tags personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, signs of borderline personality disorder, narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, cycle of abuse, abusive relationships, mental health

Narcissistic Parenting and the Cycle of Abuse Part II: The Inner Child Wound

July 1, 2021 alana barlia
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Years long chaos and unpredictability with a narcissistic parent will lead children to seek solace through perfectionism and codependency. Here we explore the inner-child wound that evolves through narcissistic parenting abuse.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, personality disorder, narcissism, narcissistic parenting, parenting, codependency, perfectionism, inner child wound

Narcissistic Parenting and the Cycle of Abuse: Part I

July 1, 2021 alana barlia
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder in a parent deeply affects children. Here I explore the cycle of abuse that ensues when a parent struggles with NPD.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissism, personality disorder, emotional abuse, emotional dysregulation, central nervous system, mental health, codependency

Tell-Tale Signs of Narcissistic Abuse, and Some Helpful Tips to Remain Safe

February 21, 2020 alana barlia
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Ever have the feeling you are living with a narcissist? Unsure what some of the signs of narcissistic abuse are? Read on to learn more about the tell-tale signs of narcissistic abuse.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissism, abuse, emotional abuse, codependent, couples therapy, marriage counseling, personality disorder, codependency, couples counseling, depression, trauma
 

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